I didn’t check my phone for a whole day

How many times do you check the phone in a day? I can’t seem to remember my number. So I decided to do an experiment. I didn’t check my phone for one full day. Here is what happened :

I’ll l tell you it was such a difficult day. We live in the age of constant monitoring and perpetual access to the world at the tip of our fingers. Though this makes sense in emergencies, I always have an uneasy feeling of being tied to a rope mentally. I won’t lie and say that I felt so free when I didn’t check my phone and that I noticed so many things around me ! The truth is that I felt apprehensive and I don’t want to feel that way anymore!

We are so much attached to our devices. My grandpa would have said jokingly that your phone is one of your organs now – you can’t seem to breathe without it. This is not an understatement. Whatsapp has made life easier and difficult at the same time. Instagram and youtube give us moving visuals and ready information so easily that it is a herculean task to open a book and read. I have been trying to start a good reading habit since such a long time but have been minutely successful.

So I took inspiration from the recent book I read – Atomic Habits and decided to start small. Yesterday for one day, I tried to touch my phone only if it rang. I answered a few phone calls and took a few photos. That’s it! It was one of the hardest day for me mentally. It felt like the day we had to wear masks for the first time.

I was inspired to try this when I recently met a friend who is NOT on any social media platforms. It felt as if she and me, we lived on different planets! My profession doesn’t allow me to give-up social media completely but I am going to try to reduce the usage for a more creative work flow.

Have you been on this path? Do you know any tips ? Please do drop them in the comments!

Magical formulas

There are so many instances in life which make us realise how tiny we are. Our hopes and dreams or troubles and worries all appear with a steady shadow called : perspective!
What is big for me might be very small for you, what is easy for you might be difficult for me!

Each thumbprint and retina on this planet is different yet there are so many ponds of generalisations where all of us are meant to swim to survive!

Sharing another amazing content that I read on the internet by Rujuta Divekar :
so how about we
-sleep soundly
-forgive easily
-relish meals
-exercise regularly
-clear stomach efficiently
-laugh loudly
-learn continuously?

The blank canvas is a complete picture – Milind Mulick

Picture Credit : Orange house by Milind Mulick Painting on Art vindow

Today we had the opportunity to meet and interact with the renowned artist Milind Mulick. It was an elevating experience to listen to such a deep-rooted yet down-to-earth artist sharing his life experiences. We went there as art lovers and amongst the numerous things that I learnt in this meet, this one thing moved me was when he said : the blank canvas which you have in front of you is a complete picture in itself. When you add lines, colours, shapes, textures and tones, you divide the completeness and add another level of meaning to it.

He also spoke about how music affects his painting process and how he loves to listen to music that evolves – like classical or jazz while painting. He said that music releases some happy chemicals in his mind, which convert into what he wants to express in his paintings.

This whole interactive session with Milind ji Mulick was a beautiful experience for me to understand and appreciate cross collaborations among art forms and how ‘experiencing art’ is a similar journey everywhere.

Waste Time

There are days when I am so motivated since the moment I wake up and I manage to carry the motivation along till the end of the day. I manage to do 27 things although my to-do list says only 12. I end up working, cleaning, re-arranging the house, cooking and also making calls to friends and cousins – all on ‘that’ day.

Then comes a day when I cannot believe I am the same person. I absolutely don’t want to enter my studio or kitchen. I feel a strange weight over my shoulders and think that why am I even doing all this? Such days are tough. Due to my workaholic nature, I feel guilty every single minute that I am not working, even when I am unwell. But the ‘big realisation’ that I like to call the lockdown – has given me a different perspective towards all this.

I came across this striking quote in my content-absorption overdose on social media which made a place in my mind and heart. I am writing about this here to also remind myself and share the positive vibes. We live in a very complicated world today. Food is not just food, we have to make a 1000 decisions to arrive at what to buy and what to eat. Any amount of hard-work and sincerity feels less as there are 10000000 people doing exactly the same. Any amount of money that you earn is never going to be sufficient as there will always be a 3 BHK over 2 and a 4 BHK over 3 and a Mercedes over your Hyundai Car. All this creates and attaches a constant stress graph on our emotional and mental well-being. We are as helpless as Tom Hanks in Castaway and there is no way to get off this island of rat-race !

Unless, we do find a way. Slowly, gradually, we try to simplify our lives. We try to ‘live’ more than just ‘survive’! I am intrigued by this philosophy and will share more as and when I find out. The first step is acceptance. I have accepted that I will try live one day at a time and at the fullest!

International Women’s Day 2022

Celebrating it today but living it everyday is the key. The key also lies in believing in gender equality more than women empowerment. It means teaching our sons AND daughters to cook and clean the house and drive and pay the taxes. It means not getting surprised when you see an excellent female bass-guitarist or a moto-racing driver. It means congratulating her just on her skills and not on the concept that – she is a woman and yet she has that skill. It means easily neutralising the concept of skills, talent and success on a ‘human’ rather on a ‘man’ or a ‘woman’. It also means not getting surprised when the man in the house cooks & the woman makes investment decisions. As a woman, it means taking out time for yourself just as you do for your kids & family. It means pushing your girl-friends to achieve that potential, celebrating their success, rather than pulling them down and also appreciating the guy-friends & gentlemen in your lives who value you as a woman.

It is inspiring to see small changes happening over the past decade. Let us all BE THE CHANGE!

You are so Beautiful

I recently had the golden opportunity to spend a couple of hours with my little niece. Looking at things from a little child’s angle (knowingly and willingly) is a always a life changing perspective. 
So, in between a thousand things that we had to do, at our big fat family get-together, me and my cousins found a few hours of chill-time and there we were – on the dining table, a long time even after dinner was over, chatting endlessly – about life, career, opportunities, work life balance, jealousy, rivalry and all sorts of stupid adult stuff. I added the adjective stupid, because of what happened some time later. 
My niece was in the living room, painting something calmly; probably singing something to herself while doing so. We were so engrossed in our ‘adult talk’, that we just looked at her at one point unknowingly, when she asked abruptly : “How do you spell mavshi” ? ( mavshi = maternal aunt in marathi ) Someone told her the spelling and back we were in our illusional adult world of endless chats. We all discussed our work scenarios and so many things which we had defined as ‘problems’. We consoled each other and promised to meet often, as all of this felt so good. After about roughly an hour, our energies drowned and there was a small pause in the talks. 
That is when my niece slowly walked in near the dining table and said : ‘I made this for you Saee Mavshi’. 

A simple card which she painted read : ‘You are so beautiful’. She had painted one for all my cousins which read simple words like ‘Be as you are’, ‘You are inspiring’ and so on! At that moment, we all stood still. She had the answers to all our ‘problems’ which we were excitedly discussing minutes ago. I felt like I suddenly started seeing clearer, like someone had just replaced my glasses with another colour, and now things were simpler! We often read quotes like : Life is simple, we complicate it! This instance in my life was a live example of living this quote. 
This incidence with my niece will be etched in my good memories forever and I will remind myself to have a look at this card whenever I feel low. A kid sees the world as it is, we add our fears and so many emotions, analyse it in multiple ways to create a picture for us. I agree to the fact that may be today in 2020, that is what we are supposed to do as adults. But, I also feel, that we should try and look towards things from the kids’ eyes intermittently and that is when you will realise, no matter what anyone says or what the definition says, YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL! 
Take the energy from the feeling and the world will surely be a different place for you! A good one, indeed! 

The song that makes me feel the same is